I am a super competent person. Or at least, I am super attached to my sense of myself as a super competent person. I have always known I...

My last two weeks of December have been… not at all what I expected. My elderly parents came down with COVID right before Christmas, and...

This is the Winter Solstice – the longest night of the year. For me, it’s a time for reflection, for sitting with and in the darkness, in...

Over the last few weeks, as the days have gotten shorter and shorter and shorter, with darkness arriving by 4:30 now here at 45.5152° N,...

In my last blog post, I wrote about softening into change. For me, stillness is often a pathway to softening. Creating a pause can create...

I wrote this poem in November of 2003, in Syracuse NY, where I was teaching at a national conference. It was a time in my life when I...

My parents are in their late 80s, and my mother is descending into dementia. It’s been a slow fall, over more than a decade now, but it’s...

My partner and I were talking, years ago, with my brother, his wife, and their then almost 6-year-old son. The four of us adults were...

When we are navigating difficult and demanding situations (making tough decisions, managing big transitions, etc.), it is helpful to...

Image of leaf-covered tree branches reaching down toward a pool of blue water, the shadow of the branches visible in the water. A sliver...

In this recent post, I talked about shifting from the “Am I (doing/being) enough?” framework to a framework of “Is what I’m doing...

Why do we resist things we know would be good for us? We all have things that we know we want to be doing – or want to have done and...

“It feels like I can’t ever do enough.” “I wish I felt like that was enough.” “We can never do enough to meet the need.” I hear this, and...

Often, when we are feeling stuck and frustrated, we are asking ourselves, or our colleagues or friends, "why" questions: Why is this so...